Isn’t it funny. We expect and demand someone to give us what we are not willing to give. Unconditional love. If we expect that from someone to make us feel safe and loved, wanted and desired, don’t we have to understand what it is? Don’t we have to feel it for ourselves before we can accept or expect anyone else to give it to us?
Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of the loved one's qualities or actions.
Does it really exist in today’s world?? Can we love someone without expecting anything in return?
People say there are no conditions to God's Love. Do you understand and agree, that unconditional means no conditions apply?". Think before reading ahead and think hard. If God’s love is unconditional, why do we nearly bribe him saying “if my wish comes true, will do this and that??”. If you believe that unconditional love does not need anything in return, why is God being bribed for the so-called unconditional Love from him? I am not against god, I firmly believe in God, but there are a few things I always worry about.
Or, if I talk about a mothers love for their kids. It is always said that a mother never expects anything in return. But I have a different perspective even here. Some or the other time in life, even mothers expect things in return from their kids. Will they agree to everything the kid says?? I don’t think so. So it is unconditional love?
One must work through painful experiences that create anger or bitterness in you. Why did it happen? What was the lesson to be learned in it? Be grateful for the people that were put in your path to help you with that lesson, rather than resenting them for hurting you. It is absolutely impossible to unconditionally love yourself if you harbor bitterness, anger, guilt or any other feelings that are not love. I believe unconditional love exists, but not the way people say it exists. But still there is dignity in not giving up on someone you truly love. But there is more dignity in letting them go so they can experience better love. That shows your true love because you then become unselfish, and through putting others first, unconditional love grows. There is respect in fighting gallantly to win someone's heart another time, but an even greater respect comes from fighting hard and knowing when to stop. Even though you would give anything to have the past back, that person has touched your life in a way that will make your future so much brighter.
Recalling the event or person will give you a starting point. Recall the people involved, recall how you felt, and what should have happened instead to meet your needs. How would you handle it today, knowing that you deserve to get your needs met, knowing that you deserve unconditional love, and knowing that in order to receive unconditional love you need to give it.
Accept that, and hold your head high, knowing you have captured their heart as well. ‘Coz there is courage in allowing your heart to hurt and grieve. But there is a greater courage in knowing it will be scarred but stronger as time goes on. For whoever caused those scars has made your life better in some way because of what the scars taught you. Remember how many people depend on you and who you are the world to. There is fortitude in holding on for another chance although an even greater fortitude comes from extending your hand and heart in friendship, realizing you will still share things with that person, No one else ever will.
Feel the pain that the event and people caused you. Go deep inside, feel the anger, feel the hurt, feel the rejection, feel the disapproval, feel how alone you were at that moment in your life. Cry.Cry. Cry. And when you are through crying all of the tears you have over it, think for a moment how that situation would be handled today, knowing that you deserve to get your needs met, knowing you deserve unconditional love, and knowing in order to receive unconditional love you need to give it. And finally, release the past, release the pain, and forgive. Forgive means to stop being angry about or resentful against, to relieve from payment of. To relieve from payment of the past is the step that will bring you to unconditional love. The world owes you nothing. You were born deserving it, so was everyone else. We are here on our journey’s to help each other heal.
You will always have those looks and jokes as your memories. Don't ever discount how special those things are in your heart and theirs. True love hurts when it is lost, but an even greater love grows inside yourself through realization that something better is in the world for both of you. And that there are still things to share with that person, even though some feelings may have changed.
Take their hand and help them achieve their hopes and dreams
Because in that there is dignity, respect, courage, humility, fortitude,
And the unconditional love that will continue to grow in both of your hearts.
The bottom line is that you cannot live your life unconditionally because you live in a physical world that is conditional. However, it doesn't stop me from experiencing unconditional love maybe because I have a different philosophy from what people generally have. But, think and tell me honestly, does it really exist??
“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well”
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