To make mistakes is part of the human condition and if you prefer it in a sweeter way. "There are no mistakes, only lessons to learn." It does not matter what you think about it: You do the same actions again and again as well as every one of us. It is important to make a balance of what we have done wrong in the past to find a way to forgive us as well as forgive others.
We don’t realize but we are the ones who suffer when we hold on to that anger. Sometimes the person we are angry with doesn’t even know what we are going through but we continue to break from inside. I know anger is a really powerful emotion and it tends to take complete control of you but if we become conscious of our anger and know that it will for our good to let it go then it will definitely help. It’s a slow process but works. It’s very natural to forget about these philosophies when we are angry but if we can remind ourselves of it once in 10 times, it’s still good.
Some people are not able to forgive others as well as themselves. They think that to forgive is something so dramatic that they would not even consider using that word as part of their vocabulary. It is noble to forgive. It cleanses the soul and creates a vacuum to fulfil life with good.
Many of us can think of someone who has hurt us badly. How difficult it can be for us to forgive that person. Even if we avoid seeking revenge, we may hold on to a grudge. Our society doesn't encourage forgiveness. On the contrary, when we are hurt we are told: "Don't get angry; get even!" The plots of many popular dramas focus on "sweet revenge." Yet we know that it is right to forgive and forget. Everybody remembers Mother Teresa's famous quote, "It is by forgiving that one is forgiven". Since we all know that friendship flourishes at the fountain of forgiveness, why is it still so difficult to forgive and forget? "If that person would die today, are you sure you would keep so much resentment and hatred in your heart? Would it be worth it?" "Forgive and forget, at least to a level where you can develop a relationship with that person again and not becoming a judge". We are a perfect creation of God and sometimes we are too harsh with people we love and with ourselves.
Forgiveness, I know it's hard. Especially, when somebody has done wrong with you, when people have been nasty towards you, when they’ve been bad mouthing about you, when they've abused you. I know it's hard. But guess what? You should forgive them. I did. Not once not twice, but numerous times, and that too the same person, coz I care. I don't care if they've murdered someone you love. Forgive them. Here's why: If you forgive them, then you don't have to carry around with you the reason why you cannot forgive them. You don't have to carry that hurt. That reason. No, let it go. Throw it away. You can't change what has happened. No matter how hard you hate that person. It will not change a thing. Apart from you. You may become bitter, twisted and all gnarled inside. After all, you'll have to carry all that hate around with you. All those reasons why you can't possibly forgive that person. All that bile inside you. Do yourself a favour. Throw it all away. Forgive that person. Forgive their deeds. Move on. They don't even have to know that you've forgiven them. They probably don't care anyway. What matters is YOU. The moment that you forgive someone you will feel INSTANTLY lighter. No longer weighed down by the massive load on your shoulders.
If I am saying all this today, it’s with my personal experiences. Even I have been hurt and been through all of this. I carried that pain with me for a long time, but the day I decided to forgive that person, I felt free. Free of all that was being a burden inside me. Everything that was stopping me from doing what I want. Today, despite of everything, I still care for the person, support them, instead call them my besties. People who love you, will hurt you no matter what.
While I'm talking about forgiveness I am guessing that you haven't led a perfect life. I am guessing that somewhere in your closet is a thought or deed that you're ashamed of. At best, something you're not proud of. Well, do yourself a favour. Forgive yourself. I don't care what you've done. Forgive yourself. Whipping yourself again and again is not going to change a thing. It's just going to make hurt. What's the point? What you've done is done. Move on. Move forward, but without those whips, chains and yokes of the past. By the way, I guess I should finish talking about the past. Because while I'm in this guessing mood, I guess that your past hasn't gone exactly as you'd hoped. That your life is not all that you'd planned. That you've made mistakes, taken some wrong turns., even made some bad decisions.
Well, get over it. Forget it. Forgive it. Forgive yourself. It's the past. It's done. Time only works one way (for now). Until that time machine gets invented, we're stuck with just moving forward, with no chance of a rewind and re-edit. Forgive it all. Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Forgive the past. For no other reason that YOU will find it's a lot lighter and easier going forward.
There are lots of beautiful things around us. It's just a matter of how we see it and whether we're able to realize it. In life, of course there are always some ups and downs. However, I believe, that even in the most difficult situation, there's always a beautiful thing.. As wise people say, "Everything happens for a reason". enjoy! :)
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