Voice against dowry...!!!

Firstly we should know what is dowry?

Dowry is a kind of gifts in the form of cash, furniture, crockery and many household items given to the bridegroom's family along with bride.

We are all familiar with the story: boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl gets married. For the majority of the western world, this is our ideal of a great beginning to a perfect marriage. It is important to realize that while India is pretty modernized, in some aspects they still keep to the tradition of arranged marriages.

Dowry system- the name seems to be so old. But the policy is still in practice. No one can deny this. Some people will give dowry to show their status.

Is dowry a form of gift? Or is it a way of the girl’s parents to help the newly wedded couple? When and how are the demands for dowry made? This form of harassment has brought many women to despair leading them to suicide.

Since marriage is one of the most important decisions a person will ever make and because divorce is not accepted among most Indians, it is imperative that the marriage choice is carefully thought out and planned. How can a young person make such an important decision on his/her own? Instead, the family looks for certain traits in a marriage partner. Some desirable traits looked for in both male and female are: matching levels of education, matching cultures, close parental cities, matching religions, and status are just to name a few.

At some point of time in our history, wealthy families used to give these gifts to bridegroom's family to help the newly wedded couple in the settlement of their newly started marriage life. But with time, acceptance of dowry system was adopted as a cultural norm in d society and slowly it become compulsory for the bride's family to pay dowry to the bridegroom's family. Thus, marriages became a business in the Indian society where all the happiness, dreams and hopes of a girl were suppressed under the heavy burden of dowry.

Thought the government took various steps to reduce this crisis in the country, the dowry system still prevails in our society. Today we think that this problem is only in the conservative families but it is not true even in the highly educated families, this acceptance takes place.

Will we ever be able to eradicate this problem completely? I have a doubt..

The system of dowry is majorly associated with arranged marriages. Indian women depend on their husbands for their living. They do not have financial independence. Some husbands consider their wives a burden. This kind of thinking should be changed. Women should be given a place of honour. Today, the girls are well educated, and are capable of supporting themselves. Girls have their own dreams, which they sacrifice all their life. I ask why can’t a girl have her life the way she wants? It is a shame that Indian society still lives a hypocrite world, a life in which they pretend to be modern by norms but still kill the dreams of girls. 

Of course, there is always that dark side. While these situations are becoming rarer, they still occur often enough to warrant some discussion on them. There are those families who will use the bride's dowry as their own. There have been horrible, true stories of the groom's family agreeing to one dowry and after the bride is married demanding more from the bride's parents. Threats of divorce are often used to entice the bride's parents to give more dowry. In a country where shame is brought down on the divorcee, parents of the bride will do whatever they can to save their daughters this shame. Occasionally, the threat of physical violence is used. There really is no way these type situations can end happily.

Dowry harassment can come in various forms, for eg:

·         Verbal abuse

·         Physical torture

·         Hinting dowry

·         Insulting the bride’s family

·         Contact with the world prohibited

·         Not providing money or food

·         Divorce threats

·         Throwing out of the house after marriage

·         Not letting the girl live the way she wants, etc

Its high time we get out of this system, and stop ruining our own daughters lives. How can people expect their daughters to stay with people who don’t even care about her life? Who keep taunting her for things and cause her trouble? The big fat Indian weddings as it is termed, is nothing more than glam and status symbol for people. The truth lies behind the scene.

Today, every person in this society should take steps to eradicate this cause. It is important to support the girls today. The government and the laws today have created a lot of ways to help the women who have problems like these in their life. Though still these are not applied the way they should be. I ask, is it it not enough for a grooms family to have the girl with them? Why does our society not understand how much love the girl needs? She leaves her entire world and comes to a new place, a new life, and new relations? People need to know that the girl coming to their family is also somebody’s daughter, and needs to be treated like a daughter even in the marital house and not like a daughter in law n treat her with the stupid Indian norms. We live in a fake world, and somewhere even we all have started faking ourselves.

I would just ask the new generation to wake up and support the cause of anti-dowry.  Raise your voices and stand against it.

All I would say in the end is:

“BURN DOWRY, NOT WOMEN”

Is it just me or others too..!!

Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley

Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems.

Never have expectations from people, because they do not always live up to it. Expectations might be from a friend or a family member, fiancée, or even something like a promotion, better job, salary hike, students expecting results etc.. And when you don't get what you have been dreaming of with your eyes open, it really hurts. All the dependent plans fail and an avalanche of shattered dreams is all that is left in the heart. Don't have expectations and if they do something for you, then that would be a wonderful surprise and if they don't then no problem. You did not expect them to!

One of the main reasons for people being unhappy, sad or dissatisfied is that they expected something very strongly and it doesn't happen. It is every one's experience. May be once, or twice, or scores of times.. But people don't change.. Do expectations really hurt??

I think yes.. but should we really not expect anything ever?? Is expecting things from our loved ones also wrong?? Can’t we even communicate our feelings to the other person and expect them to do something about it?? Once we expect something from someone we always think that he/or she will fulfil our desires. But once we find it is not done then as usual we feel hurt. It is like expectations connect us with a person and when we find it is not fulfilled then disconnection take place and disconnection of any kind is associated with pain. People always say, it is always better to not expect anything in relationships so that we stay away from disappointments. However, I believe a true relationship gives pleasure, because most of time things happen as expected.

Time and again I have cursed myself for expecting too much from people, those very people whom you thought were genuinely concerned about you. Alas! No one even comes anywhere near to being selfless in this materialistic world. May be the mantra of life is just to live it to yourself then, without caring much about others, because I don’t think there are many sane people who can give selflessly without expecting atleast a bit in return. But then as goes a popular saying- life is too short to live it just for you. In that case, can anyone help but expect? And when your expectations are crushed, you can’t help but spend the rest of the day sulking and wondering what to do next- if to throw a tantrum or let things just go, if even to continue living life the way you want, or simply turn your face selfishly from those who deserve every bit of your selfishness and arrogance.

I read somewhere and truly believe in: Never give yourself away in a relationship. By "give yourself away," I mean making sacrifices that conflict with what you need from the relationship. Never sacrifice your own personal integrity with regard to getting your needs met. The healthier image you have of yourself, the less likely this will occur. Some of the surprises may show up as challenges for the relationship. They bring couples together and give them something to share. When two people really love each other and are committed to work together, those kind of surprises create the kind of conversation that empowers both love partners to continue to self-inquire, to investigate their curiosities about what they can do to stand together, to be challenged by the surprise and know that everything is going to be okay.

But somewhere deep in my heart, I do know that this is what they call life- every bit of which is a challenge. Also that it is these painful moments which have helped me grow mentally over the years. Also, which somewhere made me realise I could write and the feeling of solace I receive while the feelings and thoughts are poured out of my pen. And how I love the feeling as over the years this my diary or pen have never shown a streak of impatience as I tear n scribble my thoughts over it every now and then, but somehow been with me through the worst of my situations. As my pen itches to write down the words which keep my mouth empty, as i sit here quietly and my hand moves swiftly over my pad.

 I only wish I could do without expecting too much from people. And if I have to do so after all, I wouldn’t be so naïve as not to voice them out….because nothing hurts more than carrying a smile on your face when from within the pain is eating you up, like an insect eating up a fruit from within without messing with its lustrous skin. I wish I would not always make a fool of myself everytime in front of those who don’t even give a damn to me. I wish my tears could wash away with itself the pain from my heart and could give a feeling of content.

Small little things...!!!

Everyone wants to be happy, yet joy is elusive for most people. One reason is that people tend to expect their happiness to come from big things, like a promotion at work or a sizzling new romance. To have a truly happy, peaceful existence, however, it is necessary to find happiness in little things. Life is made up of little things, so enjoying them for all their worth is bound to make for a more pleasant life.

Everyone goes through several ups and downs in their life. I have, and I am sure even u have, and its definitely difficult to find the way out of the clouds, and be happy once again. There are many things we do and many things we realise that help us feel better. In my case, I realized how fortunate I was to have the love and support of my family and true friends, and that I could always turn to them for help and guidance. I've always tried to keep active when I'm feeling down so that my mind stays away from the things that depress me. It's really hard sometimes.

Being happy and content with the small pleasures in life requires us to slow down and take a little time enjoying them. Do you have a pet? Slow down enough to sit with your animal friend and show it a bit of affection. Play ball with your dog or wiggle a string in front of your cat. And don't forget to have fun with the kids, too. Playing a simple board game can make the house ring with laughter.

Another thing I've done is to try to express my feelings and work through them through articles or poetry. It helps to just get those feelings out and on paper. It helps me to realize what is really going on, so I can work through it better. Plus, the process itself just makes me feel happy. When a situation gets me down, I work hard to find the silver lining. Sometimes it's a very, very thin silver lining, but I’m convinced that when you look hard enough, it's there!

I feel happy even going to a ngo maybe, or some old age home or even an orphan age.. whats the harm in just giving some time of yours to those people who lack happiness. Look at them, and then think aren’t you happy with what you have?? Play with the kids, teach them, or just sit and speak to d old ones.. isn’t it a satisfying feeling?? i feel happy and content whenever I do that.. if not an old age home.. sit and just speak to the old generation of your family and see the glow and happiness on their face..

I try to find happiness in the small things in life.. A beautiful flower, a rainbow, a hug or kiss from my mom or my frenz.. It's these little things that get me through a rough a day, and remind me to be happy and thankful for what I have.

Not everyone believes themselves to be a strong person, which would make this one the hardest to find happiness in. No matter how weak you believe you are, you have an inner strength that has most likely brought you through several hard times in your life. Reflect on those times and see how far you've come by the power of your own will and determination. Never lose sight of that and take joy in both all you have done and what you are yet to do.

Special Someone...!!!

The sun, it did shine
the day you came into my life
and everything that was wrong
became all right.

Until I found you,

Dreams were just dreams
Days were just days

Wishes were things

That rarely came true

I knew that when I met you

I’d found a special soul

A lifetime of love

To have and to hold.

I know that I can always count on you

To be there when I need someone

To give their best advice.

And I smiled because finally

my heart had found its home

and I didn’t need anyone to tell me

that you are where I belong

I knew, I just knew

You’ve got a special way with me,
You make me believe,
In this love that we’ve found,
And I promise I’ll never let you down.

Sometimes, what we share,
seems like a perfect dream.
It seems as if heaven is smiling down on us,
and nothing could ever go wrong.

Sometimes, I am overwhelmed with love.
I just want to reach out
and pull you close to my heart.
Sometimes I wish there were a bigger way
of saying I love you.

Three little words aren’t enough.

Miracles do happen!!

The period of Courtship is one of the most beautiful times of a relationship. The moments spent together in this period are always among the most memorable ones. When a couple decides to spend their lives together and choose each other as life partners, the announcement of marriage is made. This announcement is followed by the approval of society in form of a ceremony, roka or maybe engagement in some cases.

It is so strange, that in such a short period of time, they have got so close. I think, such is the power of love, which is experienced in the courtship period by the couple tying the knot of arranged marriage. The intimacy developed at the courtship period, gives birth to the feeling of love, which the bride and groom cherishes all long in their married life.

Marriage! Your life is getting transformed into another world. The days prior to marriage are filled with anticipation, pleasurable excitement and many dreams. For those couples whose love is turning into a legal bond there will be a blissful feeling. However for the prospective couple in arranged marriages the premarital days will be filled with many doubts. Here comes the major need for courtship.

There's nothing quite as exhilarating as the early stages of a romantic relationship. Just the thought of having found your one-and-only is so thrilling. But, the early stages of falling in love can be as frustrating as they are wonderful. Your new love life may consume your energy, focus, and time to the point where everything else going on in your life may feel like a rude intrusion. You can't stop thinking about your lover. You get up and go to sleep obsessing about the relationship and what your future will look like together.

Why can love's early stages make you feel personally endangered as well? First, the euphoria that you feel can disorganize you. You are adding a dating relationship to your normal, busy routine. Your normal responsibilities at work and home may fall to the wayside, as you put more energy into solidifying your love relationship. This can make you more anxious than normal. Also, loving asks you to lower your defences and loosen up your personal boundaries so that you can merge your needs and desires with those of your lover. This process can be threatening and make you feel unsafe. Nonetheless, this is the making of a strong, healthy relationship attachment. It takes time to trust each other and to know that this attachment will not hurt you. No wonder we can feel anxious and unsafe when we first fall in love. There's much to gain and to lose, in the process. The fear you feel is palpable. Many of you may unconsciously create emotional issues and dramas to give voice, and make tangible, the endangerment that you feel.

But..well I guess this is life, and this is how things change. I’m glad to being engaged to a wonderful person who understands, supports, accepts me the way I am. He makes me feel like I can do anything. He makes me feel so special and confident in myself and I'm terminally love sick every time I don't see him. I can laugh with him like no other and when he stops and throws me a special "personal" smile I just collapse inside of myself.

I wanna say a million thanx to him for the tear’s he dries, the hugs we’ve shared, the times he listens and for the so many he cares.

Being friends with your ex..!! Is it worth it???

Learning how to be friends with an ex is easy, but the big question is whether you should be friends with an ex in the first place.

Being friends with an ex is a complicated decision that can go both ways. It can make your life worth it even after the breakup or it can play with your feelings to a huge extent. So do u still think you want to be friends with your ex?? Mostly I have seen is, yes you can stay friends even after a breakup, and people generally want to.

Both of you know each other really well and understand each other better than most others. There’s a huge river between the line of being friends with your ex, which needs to be crossed with caution. You may both know each other well, but the relationship you once shared will never come back. It’s a whole new relationship that you’re building together in the form of a friendship.

Letting go after a break up is tough to do, especially when you want to get back together with your ex.  Some relationships end in a “soft break up” where both sides walk away but still keep close contact with each other.  It is common in these scenarios for one person to still feel a strong attraction towards the other and they try to keep their ex in their life by settling as a friend.

Though a lot depends on why you broke up in the first place. Then only the point of being friends with him/her comes into existence.. Yes, I believe that after a considerable amount of time, after you have both really moved on, yes. Yes, you can be friends.

I say, the two big reasons why normal people that have had an average break up with no restraining orders, cant stay friends are:

1. You aren't done dating.
2. Or you aren't done breaking up.

While you're deciding, life is going on. And here's my going forward advice. Make sure you're finished dating this person. Make sure you're done breaking up. And then, after that is passed, make every effort to maintain at least a casual friendship if this is someone who is in your life anyway. If this is a person who is part of your circle of friends, someone that you are bound to bump in to time and time again, someone that your friends know and will continue to socialize with, make it easy on everyone including yourself. Be a grown up, have some maturity, suck it up if you have to, and really try. It will make everyone and every event more comfortable. You will look polished and mature, and easy going. You will be assured inclusion in any group events, even those reserved for couples. Then, if it does turn out that this ex is someone you would really cherish as a friend, you've paved the way.

Well, though on the other hand or on another thought.. One need not really just move on even.. People can stay friends with their ex even if they still care, love or pray for the other person. Even if all they want is to see the other person happy and make the person feel secure or atleast be there to support him/her. Probably, because you can never see them in trouble.  All you need to do is, be strong, make yourself such that you don’t fall or melt in front of them making them feel you want them..

In my opinion, being friends with your ex is not wrong. Though the idea varies from person to person. But I on a personal level feel that being with them is good coz somewhere it also gives you the satisfaction of knowing they’re still good.. recalling all the lost moments makes us feel revived at times. And I believe that if you have spent a considerable amount of time with the other person, why keep hard feelings for them.. instead relish or cherish the moments you have spent together and keep a bond which is strong till the end.. lifes too short buddy, why keep hard feelings for anyone, even if its supposed to be someone who has hurt you..coz if the person has hurt you, I am sure they’ve also given you one of the best of the moments in your life.

So can you be friends with an ex? well, your answer can make your life more miserable than you can ever imagine or even make you feel relieved from worries of the other person if you still have some feelings for the other person.

ALEXANDER THE GREAT's last 3 wishes...

This was written by 1 of my teachers. I happened to like it so much, that i felt like posting it here.

Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms, was returning home. On the way, he fell ill and it took him to his death bed. With death staring him in his face, Alexander realized how his conquests,his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of no consequence.

He now longed to reach home to see his mother's face and bid her his last adieu. But, he had to accept the fact that his sinking health would not permit him to reach his distant homeland. 


So, the mighty conqueror lay prostrate and pale, helplessly waiting to breathe his last. He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, I have three wishes, please carry them out without fail." 


With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by their king's last wishes. 
1) "My first desire is that", said Alexander, 
"My physicians alone must" carry my coffin."

2) After a pause, he continued,
"Secondly, I desire that when my coffin is being carried to the grave, the path leading to the graveyard be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury".


3) The king felt exhausted after saying this. He took a minute's rest and continued.
"My third and last wish is that both my hands be kept dangling out of my coffin".



The people who had gathered there wondered at the king's strange wishes. But no one dared bring the question to their lips.. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hand and pressed them to his heart.
"O king, we assure you that all your wishes will be fulfilled. But tell us why do you make such strange wishes?" 

At this Alexander took a deep breath and said: 
"I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt.   

Lessons to be learnt from last 3 wishes of King Alexander...
I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor on this earth can really cure any body. They are powerless and cannot save a person from the clutches of death.
So let not people take life for granted. 

The second wish of strewing gold, silver and other riches on the path to the graveyard is to tell People that not even a fraction of gold will come with me. I spent all my life Greed of Power, earning riches but cannot take anything with me. 


Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.
 And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I wish people to know that I came empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world".

 With these words, the king closed his eyes. 

Soon he let death conquer him and breathed his last. . . . 


Remember, your Health is in your own hands, look after it. 


Wealth is only meaningful if you can share and also enjoy 
while you are still alive, kicking & healthy.

What you do for yourself, dies with you.But what you do for others will live for ever. 

Leave the Legacy behind

Nothing is Permanent...!!!

“Nothing is permanent in life, if there be anything permanent in life it would be change because change is constant.”

All my life there have been some or the other changes, some great, some small. I have dreamed of some changes and dreaded over others. Change has brought peace plus anxiety to my life. I have been through the game of emotions while experiencing change and I have also learned to embrace it. We observe this at all levels. On a universal level, stars form and collapse. On a global level, continents shift and climates change. On a personal level, we observe the decay of our body, changes to our mind, relationships coming and going, our possessions wearing out.

It’s always good to define our priorities in life. By priorities I mean in terms of people. With time and seasons, people do change which is a bitter truth. Here, I don’t intend to talk about only others but also about myself; I also might have changed for many people. But does it really matter when people we were, so close to become just an acquaintance gradually? Yes, it does matter for a moment or two but life does move on and so does people in our lives. Priorities do keep changing and when we look back, we just have some faint memoirs to which we smile. Bygones are bygones! Who could ever do anything about it? We come across many ups and downs in life and that’s the way it is supposed to be. Everyone is there with us at our ups or let’s put it this way – we don’t really notice who are with us during the ups because we’re just so happy and content that we happen to overlook. During our downs things are not quite the same as that’s the time when we really need people to stand for us. The matter of fact is that those very people are the ones who are our friends in true sense and loves us unconditionally. It is just a process of making us stronger with time. If we just get going with the fact that nothing is permanent – be it the good times or the bad, life becomes heaps easier to live!

When we fail to acknowledge impermanence, we cling to things. We cling to our youth, to our health, to our relationships, and to our possessions. We cling to them as though they could provide lasting happiness, as though they will last forever. Eventually, reality intervenes. That to which we cling is taken from us, and we forced to face the truth of impermanence. Thus we have the pain of a stolen car, of an ended relationship, or the death of a loved one.

In reality, the pain associated with clinging arises even before these moments. The pain arises earlier in the form of fear. Deep down, we are already aware of the impermanence. Therefore, if we cling to something that is temporary, we live in fear of the day when it will be taken from us. We can have a much happier life if we instead realize and accept the impermanence of existence. We can see the futility of clinging to things, and instead learn to appreciate them while we have them, but without staking our happiness on them. This also helps us to make better decisions. When we understand that we will change, and that other people will change, then we can recognize when a fresh approach is needed.

Expecting and even anticipating change has brought stability to the way I live. I appreciate change as if it were a divine plan; in fact I believe it is. I know that all of life’s lessons could not be achieved if any one thing were to remain the same. I believe change occurs as part of a plan set in motion before the beginning of time. I believe all changes are a test and catapult to launch us forward onto the next phase of our existence.

We know deep down that nothing is permanent, yet we strive so very hard to achieve the same impermanent things. When we don’t achieve them, we are so disheartened forgetting that “nothing is permanent”!!!!!! That is the cycle of life!!!! 

I believe “Nothing is permanent, everything will change” and I am thankful for that!

Compassionate Consumerism...!!!

Compassionate Consumerism is the phenomenon of conscious purchasing of products and services that are believed to have been made compassionately i.e. with no harm or damage done to humans, environment etc. However, it is more commonly known as Ethical Consumerism and generally involves the ethical treatment of animals for products and services.

Unethical treatment of animals rose towards the beginning of the 20^th century and today animals are cruelly exploited for a variety of commercial ventures which include entertainment, cosmetics, personal care, household products, food as well as pet trade. To counter this, the purchase of products from ‘Green Label’ companies i.e., companies that do minimal or no harm to the environment, animals, etc. in the manufacturing of products, must be encouraged.

Illegal pet stores have cropped up all over the country to meet the demand of the middle and high class. Here keeping exotic animals as pets is very ‘in’ but unfortunately they are kept in a filthy and inhabitable environment and are treated merely as tools for profit. It is a despicable practice and must be prohibited.

The fashion industry is perhaps the most insensitive as every year more than 50million animals are killed in the name of ‘fashion’. Animals in slaughter houses and farms spend their entire lives confined to cramped, filthy wire cages. Fur farmers use the ghastliest and most inhuman killing methods available like suffocation, electrocution, gassing, and poisoning. There is no excuse for wearing animal products, as many fashionable and comfortable alternatives to fur, leather, silk, wool and fibers are available; the most popular being “Faux Fur’. This is any material made of synthetic fibers designed to resemble fur. It was first introduced in 1929 and has been commercially available since the 1950s. However its increasing popularity has been credited to its promotion by animal rights and animal welfare organization such as PETA. It has become increasingly trendy, so much so that celebrities have been seen sporting it on award ceremonies as closely scrutinized as the Oscars. It is a conscientious and compassionate alternative for fur.

Organizations such as the People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals(PETA) operate under the simple principle that animals are not ours to eat, wear, experiment or use for entertainment. They educate policymakers and the public about animal abuse and promote an understanding of the right of all animals to be treated with respect. They focus primarily on the areas in which a large number of animals suffer the most.

PETA’s investigative work, public efforts, research, animal rescue operations, legislative work, special events, celebrity involvement and international media coverage have resulted in tremendous improvement in the quality of life for animals and have saved the lives of innumerable animals. These organizations are prime examples of why we need to stop.

“IN THE END I WOULD JUST LIKE TO ADD THAT COMPASSION IS THE UNDERPINNING EMOTION OF HUMANS. IF ALL ACTIONS ARE BASED ON COMPASSION, THEN THE WHOLE WORLD CAN BE CHANGED, AND NOT TOO JUST IN TERMS OF ETHICAL TREATMENT OF ANIMALS”

Animal Cruelty...!!!

“Why should man expect his prayer for mercy to be heard by what is above him when he shows no mercy to what is under him?”  ~Pierre Troubetzkoy

Cruelty to animals …y??? The poor little creatures who love us despite of how we treat them.

One of the first steps in protecting animals and ­creating effective cruelty laws is knowing what animal cruelty actually is. There are two categories: passive cruelty and active cruelty. The first ­involves acts of omission, meaning the abuse happens as a result of neglect or lack of action. Passive cruelty might seem less serious, but that is not the case; it can lead to terrible pain and suffering, and ultimately death.  Animal abuse widely described as the infliction of suffering upon animals just for our own fun or rather needs. More narrowly, it can be harm for specific gain, such as killing animals for food or for their fur. For many of us, the animals in our lives are faithful pals who make us laugh, keep us company and love us no matter what. But in times of danger and tragedy, can we also count on them to save our very lives?  I think yes..!! I have read at many places about animals saving the lives of humans. What do the poor creatures not do for us. They give us all their love and life if they are our pets. Whether we treat them bad, they never stop loving us. I know some people wont agree to this, but from my experience, I have always noticed this.

It is hard to tell just what drives people to harm innocent animals. We humans are said to be the masters of animals coz we have brain and power.. but is that all needed to survive?? Is it really that necessary for us to impose cruelty on animals??  I have always been an animal lover. Even when I go out on the streets and see these street dogs, my heart gives a cry for them. I gained more respect for my bestie when i got to know that the reason behind a swollen eye was their actionas to save a stary dog from being beaten by some bastard. I would go folded hands to the people who really care for these species.
I would say if probably we didnt have Menaka Gandhi in our country, the animals stil wouldnt have got the little they have today. she has been one person to fight the world for animal rights. Her organisation "People for Animals" has helped to a huge extent in the welfare of animals, and i would hereby like to thank her for all the efforts she has made in this regard. Here in India, the stray animals are not even given any love. People throw stones on them, even if the strays dogs come to them for food..cant we give them a little to feed their stomachs?? Don’t they have the rights to live and be happy in their life?? Why are we the masters?? What harm have these animals done to us?? If we talk about rights to live, why do we only talk about human rights.. what about the animal rights? If we were put on this planet to live our life, even the animals are here with their rights to survive. Why are we making their survival so difficult here?? 

Today, campaigns of “save the tiger” have been created and awareness is being spread around for it. Where was the awareness when these animals were disappearing?? Why didn’t they realise it then?? Today, this campaign for tigers has been started when they are on the verge of being extinct..or as u can term is endangered species.. if after knowing this issue, we do not care about the other animals, the other animals will not take much time in falling under the state of being endangered.

If new medicines have to be invented, who has given humans the rights to test their vaccines or tests on animals? If we cannot kill our species of humans, why do we try the experiments on animals??  I salute the people who opened up animal shelters and are todays protecting animals. I agree even they haven’t been able to help all the animals, but atleast they have been able to help some part of this breed of the living species.

Different organizations  focus on different aspects of animal welfare. Some of them profess vegetarianism and create public awareness for being kind to the animals.  Some others are engaged in establishment of rescue homes, animal shelters, sanctuaries, pinjarpoles, and gaushalas,  where animals and birds in distress stay under protection.  However, despite different fields of activities of different animal welfare bodies and humane societies etc., the basic objective of their efforts is the same: to prevent unnecessary pain and suffering to the animals and to promote their welfare.

It's not only up to the legal system to ensure that communities across the country are aware and educated about animal cruelty. There are plenty of things everyday citizens can do. The simplest action is for people to take care of their own pets and learn the facts so they can educate others on proper animal care. Another easy way to help is by donating to or volunteering at a local animal shelter. Contrary to popular belief, volunteering doesn't require a lot of time; simply going in a few hours a week helps tremendously. Finally, by writing letters you can remind your local lawmakers that animal abuse is a real problem that needs to be addressed. Taking a few minutes to support this worthy cause not only helps animals, it allows you to feel proud about standing up for something so important to society.

It is our job to be the voice for creatures who cannot speak up for themselves. As a nation we need to make it our priority to come together and ensure the safety of our beloved pets. As Margaret Mead once said, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Here is a list of certain NGO’s that work for animals in Delhi n NCR

1)   Sonadi Charitable Trust

·         Near Sai Baba Mandir, Opposite S. P. Kapoor Farm House, Masksudabad,

Najafgarh, New Delhi - 110043, India.

Phone: 9212131218, 011 - 26275216, 9212797696

Email: simran@ssaconsulting.in

Activities: Animal shelter, veterinary hospital, animal ambulance, Shelter for  abandoned pets, boarding and lodging facility for pets,  awareness, animal rights, pet adoption.

2)   Love 4 Cow Trust

·         A12 S. F. S. Category -I, Pocket B, East of Kailash, New Delhi - 110065, India.

Phone: 9818434399, 9810785118

Email: webmaster@love4cow.com

Website: http://www.love4cow.com/

Activities: 24 hour cow ambulance.

3)   Friendicoes SECA (Society for the Eradication of Cruelty to Animals)

·         271 & 273 Defence Colony Flyover Market (Jungpura side),

New Delhi - 110024, India.

Phone: 011- 24320707, 24314787

Email : friends271@vsnl.net

Website: http://www.friendicoes.org/

Activities: Shelter, veterinary hospital, animal ambulance, pet adoption, wildlife rescue, animal birth control programmes, pet crematorium.

4)   Circle of Animal Lovers

·         E-67 DDA Flats, Saket, New Delhi - 110017

Phone: 26531419, 26511569

E-mail: info@circleofanimallovers.org

Website: http://www.circleofanimallovers.org/

Activities: Shelter, veterinary hospital, animal ambulance, pet adoption, mobile clinic, welfare of the beasts of burden, feeding stray animals, animal birth control program, animal vaccination.

5)   Manav Gou Sadan – A Shelter Home for Stray Cows

·         975, Streetjogiyan Near Jawaher Chowk, Najaf Garh, New Delhi-110043, India.

Phone: 9313327983

Goshala: Manav Gou Sadan Village Rewla, Khanpur, Near BSF Camp, Near Indira Gandhi International Airport, New Delhi-110071. (India)

Email: manavgousadan@rediffmail.com

Activities: Environment protection; Vegetarianism; Shelter for sick, injured and unproductive cows, animal ambulance, free OPD for cattle.

6)   Sanjay Gandhi Animal Care Centre

·         Near Shivaji College, Raja Garden, New Delhi - 110027, India.

Phone: + 91 (11) 25448062/25447751

Activities: 24 hours animal ambulance, hospital.

Life means Struggle

Life means struggle. So, as long as there is life there will be struggles to survive, struggles to live, struggles to improve ourselves, struggle to cope with day to day life, and the struggle to plan a better future.

Life is meant to be lived – as truthfully and in an accomplished way as you can, by overcoming all the obstacles that one comes across. Life changes every second, so you have to adjust and cope with multiple changes. To put it succinctly, there are really two attitudes that one can adopt. Either you allow life to rule over you or you rule over life. Lots of people set their terms for their lives and most of them just lie back, saying this is what is destined for me.

I feel life should be a nice mixture of both.  Sometimes you wish things to happen in a particular manner, and when they don’t, you wonder if some unknown entity is misguiding things for you. But I am going to make life work the way I want it to. Yet sometimes, you cannot stop certain forces from working in a particular manner, then you ought to allow life to take over and just accept it.

Dissatisfaction : The Prompter of Progress . . !!

I wish to draw your attention towards one of our basic feelings of dissatisfaction. Sometimes, we do not like something i.e. circumstances and conditions around us but it does not mean that we should always express our distress or dislike for the things that we do not like. We should learn to like the things to derive cheer from them as well. We should learn to live a happy life. If there are things which are not according to our wishes and desires, we express our dissatisfaction about them but we must also think how these can be improved or changed so as to be able to serve us in a proper and desired way.  It is of no use complaining about the cold winds in the winter or the scorching sun of the summer for we cannot do anything about them. What we can do is to think of the ways  and means so that adverse circumstances are not able to do any harm to us and at the same time we can do something good for others too. Being completely satisfied or dissatisfied with life leads us nowhere and it also discourages us from leading a happy life.

Total satisfaction leads to a static and cheerless life whereas complete dissatisfaction makes out life miserable and hard to bear. So, we should be dissatisfied to an extent but we should use our ideological reasons to remove our dislike. It was dissatisfaction that prompted Columbus to sail through the large seas and discover new countries.  It made Newton and Einstein unravel the mysteries of the laws of nature and it also made Louis Pasteur discover the unseen dangers of life. It is easy to be a fault-finder but it is difficult to be the one to put things in order and correct the mistakes made. So instead of getting irritated we should think and act so that things can be turned in the ay, we wish they are. But there are things about which we may not be able to do anything such as pouring rains or the roaring aeroplanes. We have to accept them and live with them, so, we should bear them with cheer. We should overcome our dissatisfactions like a soldier who faces them boldly and subsequently conquers them cheerfully.